An interesting post from the perspective of a friend and roommate of a trans woman discussing the emotions she witnesses her friend going through as people do or don’t gender her correctly.
Originally posted on Internal Charm:
The longer I live with Denise, the more I recognize that a particular sort of timidness on the surface is borne of a deep-seated group of complex fears which are easily confused with a sort of guilt which those of us who support our trans friends might describe as misplaced. Be careful, dear readers, for what we (and sometimes our trans friends themselves) describe as guilt may in fact be simple fear or anxiety. Regardless, being dismissive of the things any person feels at the core is a very good way to make that person feel bad.
Timidity and Self-Reproach