Recently, a well-meaning friend of mine disclosed my trans status to a friend of his, someone I hadn't known previously. I don't know that I ever would have found out that he had done so if his friend hadn't slipped up and referred to me as "she" in front of a group of people.
He quickly corrected himself and moved on with whatever he had been saying, but for me, the damage had been done.
Excellent piece on not outting someone as trans. Keep your friends and loved ones safe by respecting their privacy.
April 19th, 2012 at 8:10 pm
Very nice article and absolutely worth sharing. Thank you.
April 20th, 2012 at 10:17 pm
Nope, sorry, but I don’t buy it that your friend was “well-meaning.” Your friend AND his friend were thoughtless and insensitive at the very least. You are obviously a very nice person, but giving people excuses for such absolutely indefensible behavior is not in your own best interest. Really, it’s okay to admit it–friends or not, they were both assholes.
April 20th, 2012 at 10:19 pm
I do know it wasn’t YOU who was outted, but it really pissed me off so much that I had to say something immediately, right here and now, just to give you something to think about too.
April 27th, 2012 at 10:32 am
People can be well-meaning and still be assholes. They’re not mutually exclusive. My labeling them assholes in the blog post would have been off the point of the post, and just because I didn’t say that in the post doesn’t mean I didn’t say it to them.
April 23rd, 2012 at 2:11 am
Very thought-provoking. Thanks for sharing this.
May 13th, 2012 at 11:54 pm
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